"And she always feels things so deeply"
- Liane Moriarty
Have you ever read a line in a book and had it just stick with you - like having the wind knocked out of you? Or like the gum on the bottom of your shoe that won't come off?
When I read that line in What Alice Forgot, I thought - that's me. I finally know what "too sensitive" on report cards really meant. Or what my boss said at summer camp in college when she had me wear "Extra Emotional Erin" on a button for the last week of camp.
I feel things to the tips of my toes - the good, the bad and the ugly. When someone is in a bad mood or a good one, I am there right along with them. Feeling their highs and their lows. Another word is co-dependence, but that's a conversation for another day.
In my childhood it was NOT a good quality. It made me the perfect person to pick on for the mean girls as a tween. I am sure if you knew me at that time, you'd have more than one story to share. But as an adult it often serves me well. I read rooms well and can sense what someone needs often before they do.
I have been thinking about that a lot lately. As I navigate the challenges of adulthood and life long commitments, as opposed to childhood transience, I think about being too sensitive to other people's moods and feelings. It makes it difficult to be OK with Just who I am when I am constantly worried about everything else around me. It also makes it difficult to be 100% happy when I am so focused on others' feelings.
So now I pause and try to stay in my own little space on the chess board. For practice, I'm testing out a new mantra...
"Don't put the key to your happiness in someone else's pocket"
xo friends...
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